Understanding.,Commitment, Feelings and Love

I use to know this before but I don't know that other people use to think about it too.

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I have discovered that love doesn't
guarantee the success of a relationship.
Love cannot help you stick to one person all
years round, and on the other hand,
cheating isn't always a product of not
loving your partner . In fact, loving
someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love
with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our
head not our heart. It works out because
of our emotional maturity, empathetic
intelligence and self discipline because,
time will come when you'll see more
beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent,
sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people
than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times , love will not help you;
self control will help you, emotional
intelligence will come to your rescue and
commitment will keep you going. With
those characteristics, no matter how you feel
for someone else, the person you're
committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see
better people than the ones they married?
You think they don't feel funny
sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings?
They do!
But understanding that commitment is
greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do
destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but
building a relationship takes absolutely
more than what attracted you to them and takes
more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it's
convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving
when love is there but that can only last
for just the first 3-6 months of the
relationship. After then, you'll realise that the
feelings have dropped, it's now your
responsibility to make it work, not love's
responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade.
You have to build it and it's never always about
love , it requires commitment and
intelligence. On the long run in
marriages, it's not just love that keeps them
together forever, it's determination and
commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no
effort to do that. But staying in love?
Building a relationship? Only the strong
and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one person and
commit to that one, discipline yourself and
bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work,
it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a
dream. It's always tough, at some point it will
be so bitter but you can make it work by
putting your heads together, you can scale
through the trying time by being focus and
committed.
The kind of love that attracts two
people together is not the kind of love that
will keep them together. Be emotionally strong
and be self disciplined. Please imbibe and
share with the young adults, married and
unmarried couples.